{"id":9277,"date":"2026-04-16T17:57:47","date_gmt":"2026-04-16T14:57:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/?p=9277"},"modified":"2026-04-16T17:57:48","modified_gmt":"2026-04-16T14:57:48","slug":"ayrilik-sonrasi-yara-bandi-iliskisi-uzmanlar-en-buyuk-psikolojik-hatayi-acikladi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/2026\/04\/16\/ayrilik-sonrasi-yara-bandi-iliskisi-uzmanlar-en-buyuk-psikolojik-hatayi-acikladi\/","title":{"rendered":"Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 ‘yara band\u0131’ ili\u015fkisi: Uzmanlar en b\u00fcy\u00fck psikolojik hatay\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klad\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Modern ili\u015fkilerde ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 ya\u015fanan bo\u015fluk hissi, bireyleri \u00e7o\u011fu zaman haz\u0131rl\u0131ks\u0131z yakal\u0131yor. \u00d6zellikle uzun s\u00fcreli birlikteliklerden \u00e7\u0131kan ki\u015filerin yaln\u0131zl\u0131k korkusuyla “bodoslama” dald\u0131\u011f\u0131 yeni ili\u015fkiler, t\u0131p literat\u00fcr\u00fcnde ve ili\u015fki dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda “telafi edici (rebound) ili\u015fkiler<\/strong>” olarak adland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131yor. Uzmanlar, bu ili\u015fkilerin bir ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f noktas\u0131 m\u0131 yoksa sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 m\u0131 oldu\u011funun ayr\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 yapan temel fakt\u00f6r\u00fcn “\u00f6z-fark\u0131ndal\u0131k<\/strong>” oldu\u011funu vurguluyor. Ancak bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te yap\u0131lan bir hata, hem yeni partneri hem de ki\u015finin kendi ruh sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 tehlikeye at\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

DUYGUSAL KA\u00c7I\u015e MI, YEN\u0130 B\u0130R BA\u015eLANGI\u00c7 MI?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u0130li\u015fki stratejisti Emily Conway\u2019e g\u00f6re, ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 ba\u015flayan her ili\u015fki “sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z” olarak yaftalanmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Temel ayr\u0131m, ki\u015finin bu ad\u0131m\u0131 hangi motivasyonla att\u0131\u011f\u0131nda gizlidir. Zorlay\u0131c\u0131 duygularla y\u00fczle\u015fmemek, yas s\u00fcrecini baypas etmek ve ac\u0131y\u0131 bast\u0131rmak i\u00e7in kurulan ba\u011flar, genellikle uzun vadede daha b\u00fcy\u00fck bir hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na yol a\u00e7\u0131yor. Conway, “Duygusal d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fckle ve beklentilerini y\u00f6neterek yeni bir ba\u011f kuran birey, bu s\u00fcre\u00e7ten kazan\u00e7l\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kabilir. Ancak ac\u0131dan ka\u00e7mak i\u00e7in ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 kullananlar, bast\u0131rd\u0131klar\u0131 ac\u0131n\u0131n ileride kar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131na \u00e7ok daha sert bir \u015fekilde \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmelidir”<\/em> uyar\u0131s\u0131nda bulunuyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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EN B\u00dcY\u00dcK HATA: YEN\u0130 PARTNER\u0130 ‘ESK\u0130S\u0130’ \u0130LE KIYASLAMAK<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar ve uzman g\u00f6zlemleri, yara band\u0131 ili\u015fkilerinde yap\u0131lan en yayg\u0131n hatan\u0131n “k\u0131yas terazisi” oldu\u011funu ortaya koyuyor. Yeni partneri, biten ili\u015fkinin kahraman\u0131yla (eski sevgiliyle) k\u0131yaslamak, ili\u015fkinin sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir zemine oturmas\u0131n\u0131 engelliyor. Uzmanlar, bu durumun adil olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve ki\u015finin asl\u0131nda hala eski partnerine duygusal olarak ba\u011fl\u0131 oldu\u011funun en net g\u00f6stergesi oldu\u011funu belirtiyor. Yeni birine \u015fans verirken ge\u00e7mi\u015fin hayaletlerini masaya davet etmek, duygusal muhasebenin hen\u00fcz tamamlanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kan\u0131tl\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“HALA SON K\u0130\u015e\u0130 \u0130\u00c7\u0130N M\u0130 ORADASIN?” SORUSU KR\u0130T\u0130K \u00d6NEMDE<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 yeni bir yola girmeden \u00f6nce bireyin kendine sormas\u0131 gereken temel bir soru bulunuyor: “Yeni biri i\u00e7in ger\u00e7ekten orada m\u0131s\u0131n, yoksa zihnen hala son ki\u015fi i\u00e7in mi oradas\u0131n?” Uzmanlar, bir sonraki ad\u0131ma ge\u00e7meden \u00f6nce d\u00fczenli bir i\u00e7sel kontrol yap\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6neriyor. Bu soruya verilen d\u00fcr\u00fcst yan\u0131t, yeni bir ili\u015fkiye ba\u015flama zaman\u0131n\u0131n gelip gelmedi\u011fini belirleyen en g\u00fcvenilir pusula kabul ediliyor. Do\u011fru bir zihin yap\u0131s\u0131yla kurulan “yara band\u0131” ili\u015fkileri, bazen ki\u015finin bir ili\u015fkiden tam olarak ne bekledi\u011fini netle\u015ftirmesine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olsa da, eksik b\u0131rak\u0131lan yas s\u00fcreci her zaman risk ta\u015f\u0131maya devam ediyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kaynak ve G\u00f6rseller: Cumhuriyet Gazetesi<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

G\u00fcncellenme Tarihi: <\/strong>Nisan 16, 2026 17:57<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"‘Yara band\u0131 ili\u015fkisi’ olarak tan\u0131mlanan bu s\u00fcrecin tek ba\u015f\u0131na bir sorun olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten psikologlar, yap\u0131lan tek bir hatan\u0131n duygusal y\u0131k\u0131m\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fctebilece\u011fi konusunda uyar\u0131yor.","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9277","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-genel","category-yasam","cs-entry","cs-video-wrap"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9277","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9277"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9277\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9279,"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9277\/revisions\/9279"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9277"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9277"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neoberidhaber.kahveciyazilim.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9277"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}